I became a mom at the young age of 17. Talk about being clueless… I was completely head over heels in love with that precious little girl but I didn’t really know how to help her grow up. I didn’t know what I was supposed to do to prepare her to leave home and build a life of her own or to raise children of her own.
That little girl is now 33 years old and has two little girls of her own. I also have a 28 year old daughter, and a 26 year old son. In spite of my youthful ignorance, they all survived and I’m proud of the adults they have become. I do however, think about all the things that I “didn’t do”, that I wish I had done with them when they were children.
I Did Not:
- read them bedtime stories
- help them say their prayers at night
- always teach them to pray and give thanks for meals
- have a time of devotions and Bible reading with them
- give them an allowance and teach them to be good stewards
- get them involved in giving to charities and helping the needy
As I watch my children today, I realize that even though I didn’t do all the right things, it is not too late to be a role model and to teach them by example. They still call me for advice and they still look to me for answers, so I know that I can still have an influence on them and help them be better role models for their children.
What I Now Do:
- I read a lot and I share what I am reading with my children.
- I pray for my children and I tell them that I’m praying. My children will tell you that Momma’s answer for everything is “let’s pray about it”.
- When we have meals together, we give thanks.
- I have a time of devotion and Bible reading with my husband daily and my children are aware of this.
- We are missionaries, so we live on a budget and my children have seen how God has provided for our needs and how we practice being good stewards of God’s blessings.
- As missionaries, we serve others in need.
I hope that my life today influences the lives of my children but even though there were things I failed to do, they have grown up to be healthy, happy, godly adults. This is not because of what I did or did not do but because God took care of them. As a young parent, many times I didn’t know what to do, so I just prayed and I still do that today… I pray over my children and God takes care of the rest. If your children are not “children” any longer; don’t look back and regret the things you didn’t do or the things you did wrong, it’s never too late to be a role model. Be an example of Christ for your children, no matter their age.