Who is Darlene?


5e94d39c3c8611e2901122000a9f1939_7First of all, I’m a child of the most high God. For many years of my life, I didn’t know how to appreciate who I was because I tried to be what I thought others wanted me to be or what society expected me to be. Now, I know that God created me for a unique purpose and only I can run the race that God has laid before me. It may have taken me 40 years  (I’m now 50) to come to this realization but I am now trying to walk each day under the direction and guidance of the Holy Spirit. The tagline on this blog is my motto: Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly. This is from Micah 6:8, which says, “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” I feel that this is what God has called me to do…. to act justly in all my interactions, that is to treat others fairly and justly, just as I want to be treated…. to love mercy and to extend mercy to others just as God has extended mercy to me…. and to walk through this life humbly with my God.

Second, I am a wife, which is also part of who God has called me to be. God has joined me with the man that He chose for me and together we serve the Lord as He has called us to do. There is much more to tell about how we found each other and how God called us into the mission field but I will save that for future post on this blog. I will say this, God brought us together later in life after we both tried doing things our own way rather than allowing God to guide our path but even though we traveled a broken road to get there, God allowed us to find one another and He has blessed our marriage.

Third, I am a mother. Although, the children are grown now, I’m still their momma and they will always be my babies. My oldest daughter is now 33 and has two daughters of her own. My middle child, a daughter is 28 and has two boys, only a year apart in age. My son will soon be 27. He has not yet found the one that God has for him. I made many mistakes while raising my children and times were hard during the years when I was a single mom, but I am so proud of the adults that they have become, in spite of my mistakes. I’m also a step-mom. My husband has a step-daughter from his previous marriage and although, she’s not his biological daughter, his love for her could not be any stronger… she is his child. I love her also and consider her mine as well, even though she was born to another mother.

As I said, my daughters, each have children of their own, so I’m also a grandmother. Our grandchildren call us “Pop and Meme”. I love being “Meme”. I don’t know how to describe how it feels to have grandchildren. It’s almost like going back to the days when my own children were born and watching them grow up. I look at my grandchildren and I try to see if there is little bit of me in them and when I see how much in many ways they remind me of my daughters, then I know that there is a little of me in each of them.

I too am a daughter, although my momma went to be with the Lord in 2008. I miss her so much and I think of her daily. My dad is still with me and I’m thankful for that and I have a wonderful step-mom who loves me. I’m also a sister, a big sister for that matter. I’m the oldest of four. I have two sisters and a brother and I love them all dearly. My sisters actually look to me for advice at times and that’s always nice. I’m glad that I’m a big sister that they can look up to…. but they also provide love and support for me as well. I don’t know what I would do without them.

Next, I’ll tell who I have become through my education and experience. I went back to school at the age of 30 to get my BS degree in Psychology/Sociology. After graduation, I worked as a social worker in child protective services. I love the field of psychology and social work because I love finding out what makes people do the things they do and I enjoy helping others and trying to make a positive difference in their lives. I will soon finish my graduate studies. I am working on a Masters degree in Human Services at  Liberty University, which is a Baptist university. My studies have included marriage and family counseling, human development and Christian leadership. I’m not sure where this degree will take me but I know that it’s part of the plan that God has for me.

For the past eight years, I’ve served along side my husband as a Baptist missionary in Belize, Central America. We will be leaving the mission field in March 2013. At this point, we don’t know where God is leading us after this but we know that this is just one chapter in the journey coming to a close and we look forward to the next.

Lastly, a little about my personality, for most of my life, I disliked the way I was in social settings. I was never comfortable, I didn’t like talking to people that I didn’t know well. I wanted to be more popular and to have more friends but I just didn’t think I had anything to offer. I wasn’t outgoing, witty, funny, and never felt that I was very attractive (but that’s another issue all together). I’ve always been a “homebody”. I’m happiest when I’m in the comfort of my own home. I dislike being in a large group of people and I hate shopping malls or even trips to the grocery store for that matter. I don’t like talking on the phone and I rarely even want to go out to eat. I know, you are already thinking… “wow, she would be great fun to hang out with”. Well, I’m not exactly the life of the party, I’m sure many would think that I’m more the proverbial “turd in the punch bowl” instead. Before you decide to cross me off your list for party invites, follow my blog and I’ll talk more about my personality. I’m not antisocial. I don’t dislike people. I’m not going to turn into the “crazy cat lady” who lives alone and doesn’t want to be bothered. I’m an “Introvert”. I love people and I want to be around people. I just have to do things in small short burst because as an introvert, my brain reacts different to the stimulation of people, noise, activity and even strong smells. The majority of the population are extroverts….we, introverts are outnumbered 3 to 1 so sometimes people think being introverted is abnormal because we are a little different than the majority. Once you understand the introverted personality, there is a lot about us to appreciate. We may not have a lot of friends but we develop deep, long lasting relationships with the few friends that we have. We don’t like superficial relationships so we aren’t comfortable with the usual social chitchat. That’s why we usually aren’t comfortable at parties. I’ll let you read my blog post to learn more about me and about being an Introvert. By the way, I’m married to an extrovert so I have an understanding of both introverts and extroverts.

Through this Blog, I hope to write about my experiences as a missionary, about my own personality and how that affects my life and relationships, about my Christian walk, about marriage, family and even divorce. I feel that my education and my life experience gives me plenty of material to write about. One of the main goals of this blog is to practice my writing skills and to post blogs that I can use as part of my writing portfolio. I’m looking for opportunities to do Freelance writing. I also hope that you find something in my writings that will bless you in some way.

7 thoughts on “Who is Darlene?

    • Oh my! I’m caught completely off guard and as you know I’m such an Introvert that words don’t come quickly so all that I know to say is THANK YOU! I’ve only been blogging for 2 weeks so I’m not sure of the protocols here but I’ll read the “rules” and pass this on. I love Chuckles by the way… I think my pup, “Bama” (we are from Alabama) would love his own Blog but I don’t want to be upstaged 🙂

  1. My husband and I just visited Belize during our winter cruise. We stopped a couple other places, as any cruise does, but Belize has to be my favorite. The folks sharing the country with us were beautiful and I shall remember them always, especially Mel.
    As to your blog, you sound very much like me. I am infinitely better at expressing anything with the written word rather than speaking it.
    Thanks for being there.

    • Belize is a beautiful place. The cruise ships come into Belize City but we live in the Southern area of Belize, about a 3 hour drive from Belize City. The areas outside of the city are truly beautiful. Thank you for visiting my blog and thanks for your comments.

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